Flawed & Fab
Flawed & Fab Friday: Your Own Worst Enemy
April 22, 2011
It’s Fuh-fuh-FRIDAY!!! And GOOD Friday at that. So that means it’s time for…
Truth be told, I’ve been kind of a funk lately. I’ve been letting self-esteem (or the lack of it) affect me tremendously, where my talents and abilities are concerned– and it’s really been stifling me creatively and professionally.
This week, I thought I’d finally try and get my head around it… so I went to the local library and picked up this book:
As I was reading, I came across a section that describes me to a TEE.
So, this is my confession:
Self-doubters/self-attackers block their success by holding high standards they feel they can never possibly meet and for which they therefore seldom strive. But rather than rationalizing or blaming others for their lack of effort, they selectively attend to and mercilessly emphasize their own faults and failings to such an extent that they do not appreciate what they DO accomplish. They are actually highly ambitious, but because they cannot tolerate anything but an idealized kind of perfection, they do not allow themselves to enjoy partial success, thus reducing their incentives to try.
If they make an effort and achieve distinction, they often feel that their accomplishment was a fluke or something insignificant. They feel that they do not deserve approbation, because their success came too easily or quickly, or because they achieved it without mentor or validation by a luminary in the field. They therefore fear that because they have not paid their dues, they have cheated and will at some point be unmasked as frauds.
I do have an extremely flawed self-perception, which unfortunately causes me to under-achieve … but according to what others tell me (not that I believe them), I also have some pretty fabulous talents… (supposedly)
Play along, if you’d like to!
And since it’s GOOD FRIDAY, we’ll leave on a funny note. Here’s a convo I wanted to relay:
Luis: You have me all self-conscious now about doing Flawed & Fabulous Friday!
Natalia: Why?!
Luis: Because you said “Fabulous” was a girl’s word.
Natalia: It’s also a word that gay men use…
Luis: That’s not helping. Anyway…
Natalia: Just keep doing it.
Luis: Well why don’t you do it this week?
Natalia: Because it’s your thing, besides, I’m not flawed. You can do it FOR me if you want.
Luis: And get in trouble!??! No thank you!
Flawed & Fabulous Friday
April 15, 2011
It’s that time of the week, folks…
So, those of you who know me, know that I like food… like a LOT. Sometimes… too much and I happen to overeat.
As I mentioned before, little-sister Amy is in-town this week for Spring Break. As her birthday present to me, she took us out to dinner wherever we wanted to go… I picked Chili’s. (Of course!)
I ordered:
- A side salad
- A Triple Dipper (which had)
- Chicken crispers
- Southwestern Eggrolls
- Chips & Spinach/Artichoke dip
In addition to eating ALL of the above. I also partook of Natalia & Amy’s scraps:
- French fries
- Barbecue-Maple Chicken crispers
- Popcorn jumbo shrimp
- Corn on the cob
And then.. to top it all off. Two, count em TWO cupcakes from the cupcakery!!
Am I flawed for overeating sometimes?? Sure.
Am I fabulous for enjoying myself another birthday treat?? Absolutely!!
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Flawed & Fabulous Friday
April 8, 2011
Blog-friend Ashley, in her blog post today, launched a weekly segment she called Flawed & Fabulous. She wrote:
Reading about people’s real life confessions (funny or not) is so refreshing!
I love open and honest stories, just as much as pretty happy pictures.
Happiness is great, don’t get me wrong. I am married to the literal Mr Brightside and I call myself an eternal optimist, but I think its invigorating to let it go sometimes.
So, I encourage you to use Fridays to let down your guard and share with the blogging community.
Make us laugh, make us cry, get some pitty if you want, show your real self, in all your fabulousness!
If lots of bloggers do this, we will all feel better about life.
No one is perfect, flawed IS fabulous
I must say, I agree that reading and sharing about the not-so-polished portions of our lives are quite refreshing. That being said… here we go!
Today, on our family blog, I posted about the experience Natalia had yesterday in facing the possibility that something could be wrong with her pregnancy. I shared:
Luis: The thing is, I’m a worrier… of the WORST kind. After leaving the office, I tried to promise myself that I wouldn’t look up what could cause low amniotic fluid… but I did anyway.
The next day (yesterday) my anxieties began to kick up a notch. I was scared that something could seriously be wrong. My mind began to spit out visualizations of all sorts of scenarios, and it frightened me.
I’m a baby when it comes to things like this. As we rode up the elevator to the specialist’s office, I wrapped both my arms around one of Natalia’s and gave it a good hug while resting my head on her shoulder. The stronger the squeeze, the more at ease I felt.
Usually, the husband/father is the “strong” one… not me, though. There you have it: flawed & fabulous.
(Also, everything checked out great with the baby and pregnancy, so there’s nothing to worry about.)
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